Not good at dating

The "good guy" trap fools us into thinking we won't have to look critically at his shortcomings, our compatibility, and even his emotional availability.Furthermore, it assumes that “good guys” will make good boyfriends.Then, I matched with this guy who ACTUALLY found me funny, and my hope in ever finding ~the one~ was restored.Usually, my relationships die out faster than my phone battery (as you can see), but me and the Tinder dude from these messages lasted almost a year. Being sarcastic is who I am eight days a week, and if you can't understand that, then, I don't know... Having a sense of humor is what looks for in the person they're dating.You have to weed out the guys who are only talking to you because they're bored, the guys who just want to hook up, the guys who just want you to have a threesome with him and his girlfriend and, lastly, the guys who seem really cute and sweet but you have horrible text chemistry with them.Text chemistry is essentially how you feel about someone while you're texting them.To this day, it's the longest I've ever been with someone. If you can't laugh with them, it's not a good sign.Getting back in the game was frustrating because guys would think my jokes were serious, and they'd get offended. The person you're dating is the first person you should think about texting when you have good news or bad news.

Ed., LMFT, founder of Relationship Reality 312 in Chicago.

Texting was the only way we could (virtually) spend time together until he had days off.

But he would continually get upset at my sarcastic jokes, and I would continually get upset at his vapid responses.

Even though "good morning" and "good night" texts are appreciated because they're so uncommon now, I'd rather be with somebody who can hold a conversation with me over someone who knows my sleep schedule.

So just because he's a nice, good guy, it doesn't mean he's the right fit for you.

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